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30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

A few months back I came across this post on Create Your Great Life. The author, DeAnna had reblogged it from Marc and Angel Hack Life, and now I’m doing the same.

Originally, when I had hoped to start this blog closer to the New Year, and was busy scribbling down my New Year’s resolutions, I wanted to share this post as others were likely doing the same. But, life got in the way, things got delayed, and now it’s March. I’m posting it now, because as I approach finals, life is quickly getting the best of me, and I’m yearning for that New Year, New You feeling.  Even though it’s not New Year’s there’s really no wrong time reflect on life, make a conscious effort to stop doing the things that makes us feel like shit, and start living the life we want.

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Article written by Marc at Marcandangel.com

When you stop chasing the wrong things you give the right things a chance to catch you.

As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Nothing could be closer to the truth. But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

1.  Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.

2.  Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on. No, it won’t be easy. There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them. We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. That’s not how we’re made. In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall. Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.

3.   Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves. Read The Road Less Traveled .

4.   Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.

5.   Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you likeeveryone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.

6.   Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.

7.   Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.

8.    Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.

9.    Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.

10.   Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else. Read Stumbling on Happiness .

11.   Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive action. You cannot change what you refuse to confront. Making progress involves risk. Period! You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.

12.   Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.

13.  Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company. There’s no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.

14.   Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.

15.   Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what others doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.”

Read the rest 16-30 and full article HERE

CREDIT: Full article written by Marc at Marcandangel.com

Photo by Rob Brucker

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6 Comments Post a comment
  1. m #

    Only if most everyone kept these rules as their mantra and practiced them everyday. At least become aware of what they are doing/not doing would be a good place to start. In today’s society where feeding the ego and being the ego self is so important, being compassionate to ourselves and other beings around us is the least we could do but it is not taught as a basic life practice. Great Lessons……… thanks for sharing. M

    March 6, 2012
  2. Reblogged this on Hwaairfan's Blog.

    March 19, 2012
  3. Thanks for the reblog love!!

    March 19, 2012
  4. WOW! This is so similar to a lot of the blogs I’ve posted. Have you read many? We must think alike because point number 13 in your list, I actually wrote a blog titled ‘Love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely’. You should check it out! I believe in everything you’ve written here Nina, this is great stuff 🙂

    March 21, 2012
    • Thank you!! I actually hadn’t seen that post when I blogged this…but I did go looking for it and found it yesterday: ) We certainly think similarly. Enjoy being 21 btw, and being single! The times when I was single are the times when I experienced the most growth; emotionally, spiritually, and mentally; )

      March 22, 2012
      • Thank you I will! I don’t think I want to stop being 21 to be honest with you hehe. I will be 22 in July so I won’t be 21 for too much longer unfortunately 😦 Time goes by so fast! Almost feels like yesterday that I was 16 hehe. Thanks for all your insight. I think I’m definitely at a good age to be single and experience life 🙂 I’m really happy that 21 was a time for you where you experienced the most growth 🙂 That makes me happy!

        March 22, 2012

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